Dean Esmay

Detroit, MI, United States

Spiritualist, National Coalition for Men ,Cassie Jaye's The Red Pill movie, once Editor of A Voice for Men.Child & domestic abuse advocate.

As a one-time famous Men's Rights Activist and former Christian, and former "conservative libertarian," I am so hoping to talk to you about this one day. See me in Cassie Jaye's "The Red Pill" movie if you haven't. Much of me has been scrubbed from A Voice for Men, too, but I'm still here.

I feel yah, Rich. I'd love to talk to Pearl about it some time. Man I'd especially like to rip into some hypocrite Christians too. "Tracons" are a con, and have been for a while.

Ooh, I've seen it. In fact as an illustration: I went to a men's group for guys struggling with porn and masturbation. They had sources that were all extremely shame-based, and even recommended, confessing it to your wife, and viewing it as "acting out" emotionally immaturely, shame shame shame.Not all bad advice, but... honestly mostly. Including, no discussion at all of what failings the wife might have. Or what help she might give. It was all about shame, and how you'd failed your woman and God.Mind you, this was run by Lay men who themselves confessed all to the problem.It's clear none of them was getting any at home.The most Patriarchal institution in the world, arguably, is the Catholic Church, but any experience shows: it's run by men bullied by women, these days.

10 Nov 18:23

I have two suggestions for two women you should first research, then try to get online: Suzanne Venker, and Karen Seitz (of Happy Wife School).THey're nicer than you are, BUT, these women are likely to make you, Pearl, have another small but very positive red pill experience. There ARE good women. Venker is a FOUNT of common sense, and Seitz explains how she fixed her own marriage and became happier as a wife, and now runs a full time practice helping married couples successfully save their marriage. And both she and Venker do it by making women recognize that most of the time, they're married to a good man already, and it is THEY (they women) who need to change.... and are very frank about it.They are HATED HATED HATED by Feminists, but they're ACTUAL "tradwives" that are for real. None of them are the fake "Christian who's not a feminist but is one after all" women. They're women with SUCCESSFUL TRACK RECORDS.I can provide an intro to Venker. Don't know Seitz wish I did!

I used to do domestic violence and child abuse advocacy for boys (& men). My old friend Trudy Schuett, who retired some years ago, was funny. She always said "Never argue with a drunk or a feminist."