I go to my buddies house and drink beers with him and his wife. These are my friends of 20yrs. I love em they love me. Ok so while my buddy cooks BBQ his wife and I drink beers and talk about me being the only single friend and me dating. I tell her " I would like my dates when date 1: she cooks me a meal and rubs my back to demonstrate her value" right after saying that his wife shouts "WHAT IS SHE APPLYING FOR A DAMN JOB WHAT THE HELL" . I said calm down let me finish, date 2: I pick everything, be a gentleman, chivalrous, pay for everything and treat her to dinner and dancing ". Date 3: we chat over if we want to proceed further with the relationship or end it and what our expectations are.

His wife went back to yelling "she's not a damn employee you can't treat women like that". I'm like just calm down what's wrong with men having standards no one is forcing her to do anything if she doesn't like what I say she can walk away and leave anytime. My friends wife is divorced two kids different dads she's short and over weight and sometimes I think because she bosses my friend around she seems pissed that she has no right to tell me anything about my life. Still do you think I was out of line setting an expectation for a woman to cook and demonstrate her caring nature with a back rub?